How to Manifest the Life of Your Dreams

It’s both easier and harder than you expect.

I hope that if you know me well enough to subscribe to my Substack you can hear the irony in my use of a scammy clickbait title. If you don’t happen to know me and are excited to learn how to manifest the life of your dreams, well I hope I don’t disappoint. 

Because despite the irony in the title, and my discomfort with almost all of the internet writing I have read about creating the life of your dreams via any prescribed method from magic to The 4 Hour Work Week, I’m also kind of serious. I do have a method I’m using to give the commercial success of my new sex coaching business a spiritual boost towards success. 

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I don’t know if this method will work. Also, this isn’t really a method. More like an experiment. I have a hypothesis that I’m testing. If my hypothesis is correct, my decision to quit my job despite having only one paying client will turn out to have been the correct one. I will be able to earn enough money to allow my family to live in the relative economic comfort of a corporate weed dealer, which was my previous job.

If my theory is true, it’s also the reason why so many pop songs are about therapy and why all the kids' movies are metaphors for healing family trauma. It’s why the only people I know who are happy are the ones who have learned to heal the trauma we all carry around and why as soon as they do, they start to look for a way to incorporate that knowledge into everything they do. Because once you learn to feel your own soul, it feels too good to forget. 

My hypothesis is that the best and fastest way to get the life of your dreams is to work for a world where everyone can live the life of their dreams. And that the fastest way to make such a world is for more humans to remember what it feels like to be human.

I believe the best way to get the life of your dreams AND to help other humans remember how good it feels to be human is by being the best, most authentic version of yourself and sharing it with as many people as possible. I’ve been saying for years that my calling, my art, is loving people. I’ve found a way to help people by building therapeutic relationships and helping them feel things they haven’t felt before. So this is where I’m starting my work. 

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Want to try the experiment along with me? Here’s the instructions. Marry getting the life of your dreams with the true and only intent that by living the life of your dreams you will be living a life that most helps everyone on earth have a chance to live the life of their dreams also. Then keep that loving intention active in you as often as possible. As you live out the process of becoming the best, most authentic version of yourself, keep trying to follow that feeling of love and wholeness. When you have to make a choice, choose the option that generates the most of that feeling. 

You notice that so far I haven’t really mentioned how all of this is supposed to result in a better life than the one you have now, let alone the life of your dreams. How is being the best and most authentic version of yourself going to help you navigate late stage capitalism while the world burns?

Personally, I believe that everything is connected and our individual consciousness is a small fragment of the greater universal consciousness. This connection can give us all insight and is the force that moves us towards the best and most authentic version of ourselves. If we try to become the best and most authentic version of ourselves in a way that also helps other people reach that state, now we have the universe on our side. The universe now has even more incentive to help you do what you do best full time. 

But even without a spiritual framework, I still believe this will work. Because people are hungry. Starving. The global corporate colonization of our humanity feels is nearly complete. To the point where a significant portion of the population don’t even seem to know what it feels like to be human. To live in a community of people you know and trust, to raise your families with them and support each other. To make art and music, to celebrate and grieve and heal each other. When they come across something that gives them a taste of that feeling, they keep coming back for more.  

The reason the intention to help the whole world get there matters is because your intention shows in your work. If your intention is to make as much money as possible you will follow the capitalist trap of watering down your authenticity in exchange for quick sales. And there are already lots and lots of people doing that. The market for a profitable simulacrum of authenticity is oversaturated. But the market for helping humans remember what it feels like to be human is wide open.

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Capitalism is blind to most of the world. It can only see money. It can’t see the future, only more profit in the present. That’s why we can’t seem to do anything about global warming. But it’s also why it will not see that people learning how to be human is the beginning of its downfall. It will just keep selling that message the same as all the others. The human soul is the only thing that can defeat it. So it’s time to find yours. 

The secret to living the life of your dreams is to realize that you can only live your life in the present moment. So do whatever you can to put your soul into the moment. Don’t do what you love. Be what you love. In whatever way you can for as much of your day as you can. Fight for it. Keep your flame alive and grow it. If enough of us do that, maybe we can burn this fucked up system down in the process. 

That’s my hypothesis anyway. If I’m wrong, well I may not have as much money as I hoped. I may have to go back to paid work. But I’m not going to stop doing what I know I’m here to do. Because as long as I’m doing that, I’m already living my dream life.